Designing better lives.

So in lifestyle-marking, we tend to be more Marxist with ourselves.

We devise tools that whether we meant to be as organised, are meant to collaborate with people more smoothly in what we intend as more than a life-skimming, activity-excluding, meaningless-observer passive version of ourselves.

We would (or at least, in my case), vie for the highest order on a peak perfection estates - where we can be the best version of ourselves. And whether that be the sad calorie-expending research exercise buffs that other people propose to themselves as being their best, or the back-bending rail-skinny yogi that goes beach-hopping every summer is best, or the outcome of what is a 4-year trek to mount university could turn out the best version without needing reading glasses at the end of 30, the reason why these are best, is because they are Yours.

The standard in which we are able to own ourselves, and become the best version of Us, who we have fully controlled ourselves on - and shaped - and not have anybody else dictate in fullest autonomy, are the best version. The hover of which we aren’t being the best to suit an army prerequisite to remain a citizen of any country, or holding out a 4.0 average so that we can maintain a $100k scholarship that otherwise wouldn’t be afforded to our parents at any point, or any state that would correspond to having more time for ourselves - than we had ever before, would create a sense of how to achieve our best.

We connect with the best people - and the best evolves of ourselves - whether it was demented by our health, or our happy circumstances, we can elude the fact that it is to other people’s specifications that we were actually being led towards - and it is their sad lives being fulfilled, after all. We can only hope or begin to imagine, that our taste perceptions will always be the same of even stable and consistent, but that is only to its standards that it is held into their valued instances.

Sometimes, we exist in oppressive situations to design ourselves the best way out - or to learn about cultures - and social instances, to bring us to our own capacity - to become what we were not.

And it is up to us, as designed by us - to suss this out. And enable ourselves the resolution that will not be coming from others: mom and dad, or friends, tutors, government advisors, or officials in the county, or even the tiny communities of belief. It will eke out clues and will be up to us entirely to move forward, or at our disposal to use, if we wish to - towards working out a proper working solution that we identify with.

The problem with solutions, is that if they don’t resonate with us, it will just be in the “suggestion” or if it was considered, possibly the “development box”, but these are a stretch forward to the imagination. It does not ruin, it does not campaign for vanity, and it does not adhere to the wrongers of your own beliefs.

We only submit ourselves to its long-term positive effects - which contain our redemption : a refinement of attitude (humility), a stance (persevering) or a state of mind (patience and tolerance towards those different from you), and definitely a resolution (finding yourself in the comatose of a body, but spiritually awakened mantras of the enveloped not encased mind).

If you find steps are the way to follow up to your best, in your highest capability, then there are solutions to creating these as well:

1/ a seeking of tenacious (menacing) dictates of aprobation : when you think you have been cushy enough - you disrupt yourself, and like most
X-ers, feel burnt out (and not in the muscles after running a 5k marathon), the A-types usually become listless, as the energy of that qualified mental python that’s curled up and gearing to spring forward, now exists in the sinuous lines of the structures you built, that are now laid behind

2/ a promontory estate of a deadline : timelines help, since you understand how you work in all faces of time - approaching fast, paced, and forwardly planned

3/ a border-tendencies approach to seeking where you start : taking the other - begins, where your rights end and another person’s begins / elongates the reach that they are not welcome to

4/ qualifying for upgrades : whether this is a navigation prospect, or a straight-line faced path, the suss (or an aspect to which things only happen when you make them happen) to whether the road is shorter than it is, is totally safely in your hands

5/ defining paths : seeking the u-turns and secret vaults are entirely in your architectural freedoms to build, and devise to actuate the kind of paths that you want, and need to happen, (now, not later).

This is part one.